Neuroplasticity means that the brain has an ability to reorganize its neurons, depending on its needs.
Babies’ brains can change a lot faster than an adult can. Yet, an adult brain can change. But that’s why NoFap can take 90+ days for many people.
The pathways have to change, old habits have to be broken, and new ones build instead.
That’s why you should use the time you have available from not masturbating, to build new habits.
Think of the things you wanted to do when you were 16, and then do them.
Ride a bike. Grow a beard. Wear fancy clothes. Approach girls in clubs. Argue with someone that annoys you. Learn a second language. Make a new friend.
It’s easy to find tasks. It is difficult to finish them.
Finishing what you’ve started is an art in itself.
tl;dr Make new habits. Be preoccupied. Find happiness in non-electronic media. Don’t play video games or binge watch TV shows.
In one sentence: become a cool dude.
NoFap Urges Questions and Answers:
“Why do I Have Constant Urges?”
The reason you have constant urges is because you’ve spent years developing habitual masturbation. Your mind is used to receiving daily stimulation, and once you stop doing PMO, you are naturally going to feel a craving to masturbate.
I know that the urges can be difficult to handle, and they may sometimes lead to a relapse. Sadly, that’s the way life works, which is why you need to be constantly ready in order to stop the urges from ruining your NoFap streak.
What is the Timeline on NoFap Urges?
You will stop having NoFap urges only once a sufficient amount of time has passed.
The time needed to stop feeling urges is different for everyone. The longer you’ve masturbated, the worse your urges are going to be. There are some cases in which guys feel urges even after a year of doing NoFap.
Will NoFap Urges Ever Go Away?
Yes – even though at some dark moments it may seem like the urges are going to last forever, they really do go away.
You only need to be ready to give enough time for this to happen. Beware that the time needed to stop feeling NoFap urges can be over a year.
What is the Best Way to Resist Urges?
Semen retention and building a portfolio of healthy habits is the best way to resist the urges and take control. The busier you are, the less time to masturbate you are going to have.
Semen retention has a positive effect on your drive to cultivate healthy hobbies because sexual deprivation is one of the best motivation boosters. For me personally, weightlifting is one of the most fulfilling hobbies there are, although that may be different for you.
How to Handle Sudden NoFap Urges?
Sudden NoFap urges are the ones that you never expect to happen.
These urges sometimes happen at night, other times during the day, but what is common is that they are sudden and very difficult to control. The recommended way to handle these types of urges is to do a physical activity in order to focus your attention on something different. Doing a few push-ups or sit-ups can be a life-saver.
Why are There no Urges on the Flatline?
The flatline is a period where you are going to suffer from a low libido. The lower your libido is, the less of a sexual drive you are going to feel. This applies to both the need to have sex, and the need to masturbate, as the two are interlinked.
Just because you feel no urges while on the flatline, doesn’t mean that the urges won’t come back once the flatline period ends.
What Happens if You Embrace the Urge?
There is only a single thing that can happen if you give in to the urge to masturbate – you are going to suffer from a relapse. How long and bad the relapse is going to be, depends on you.
If you are careful, the relapse can be a one-time thing and won’t affect you in a negative way. Otherwise, masturbating even once can lead to a period of binge masturbation that can last for weeks.
What are the Symptoms of NoFap Urges?
The symptoms of NoFap urges is that you are going to be feeling a psychological and physical need to masturbate. The need is going to be similar to the craving for high carb food people feel when they are on a diet.
You are going to crave the physical sensation of masturbation, and you may feel the need to watch porn on your computer. You may even fantasize about some types of porn or try to remember a video you’ve watched – that is called having a “porn flashback.” The less time you spend feeling these symptoms, the easier time you’ll have handling and stopping the urge to masturbate.
“What if I Relapse After a Bad Urge?”
If you relapse, there is only one thing you can do – fight back to regain control.
Don’t worry about breaking your streak or resetting your NoFap counter. Try to not feel bad about masturbating, and know that it happens to everyone. All guys relapse, and a short relapse won’t send you back to the negative place you were before starting NoFap.
Forgive yourself, learn a lesson from the relapse, and continue becoming a stronger man.
“Can I Still Have Urges After a Relapse?”
Yes, this is called the “chaser effect.”
Don’t ever think that if you succumb to your urge that the need to masturbate is going to go away. Every relapse is going to lead toward wanting to relapse even more.
Giving in to an urge once, is going to make you want to masturbate far more than if you didn’t lose control.